Marriage and Couples Counselling 2018-10-04T21:45:49+00:00

Marriage and Couples Counselling

Marriage, co-habitation, or civil partnership, are relationships based on intimacy and trust.

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Demian Brown Toronto Psychotherapist

About the Program

Couples counselling, previously known as marital counselling or marriage therapy, addresses problems arising from our intimate relationships. Not only does each member of the couple-both parties come to therapy sessions but the relationship has a life of its own separate enough from the players creating it that it can be examined and managed usually just through improving communication. The relationship is also in a sense the “client.” In short, the relationship has an identity apart from and in addition to the parties from which its comprised.

Marriage, co-habitation, or civil partnership, are relationships based on intimacy and trust. When such a relationship stops working, we are affected deeply and our health and happiness suffer. Our sense of identity and self-worth often rests on the strength of our relationships and we can despair when our prime relationship fails.Pressures from work, family, money and health can all take their toll. The relationship that once recharged us and gave us security leaves us drained and disappointed.

Patterns of behaviour learned as children often re-emerge in our adult relationships. As an illustration, consider a childhood ‘scapegoat’ who may start to feel blamed for everything by the partner who once adored them. They may be more sensitive to normal constructive feedback and interpret it as hostile because they are responding to both their partner’s criticism in the present and also to the past criticisms or abuse that negatively impacted the formation of the individual’s identity. It would be triggering.


–  communication breakdown
– problems relating sexually
– ongoing arguments without resolution
– the past arguments and all issues in general surface uncontrollably
– violence
– depression or other health and mental health problems
– the bond of trust is eroded or broken.
– people become ambivalent and might look elsewhere often covertly
Some causes of relationship breakdowns include broken trust or expectations, stress, illness, parenting conflicts, changes in family, depression or mental health challenges, disappointment, in-law problems, misplaced or misunderstood priorities, and more.
A skilled, objective Counsellor can help couples build a deeper and more realistic relationship.

– there has been a betrayal of trust; an affair, debt or other secret
communication is difficult or leads to anger or confusion.
–  separation or divorce seem like the only option but you don’t want to give up yet
– the sexual bond is off kilter or gone
– arguments persist and lead nowhere.
Couples can benefit from professional insight in couples therapy, from an objective Therapist’s guidance, and from learning skills that help with perspective, communication, expectations, and growth. Couples can learn to use differences to expand their relationship rather than feel threatened.
Furthermore, destructive patterns can be recognized and addressed in marriage or relationship counselling. Conflicts can be assessed from a fresh perspective. Accountability for destructive behaviours can wipe the slate clean. Sexual tensions can be better addressed with a Therapist, since these personal issues are often difficult to talk about outside of counselling.

your relationship is worth saving. Many regret too late though not giving counselling a shot when their partner urged them to attend. Many problems and difficulties can be fixed or overcome with some objective, professional, outside insight and through help from a Therapist who can help parties to communicate with each other again and perhaps save a couple even from the most tenuous of situations that threaten to end a relationship for good.


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“While in session I think, analyze, feel and assess out-loud with confidence as we go along allowing you to see my skills, my motives and judgements.”